and so does Kendra Malone, and I think she does a good job getting her point across. She got me thinking enough to at least write this, to help connect what she means to what it means to me. Why I publish it, no idea. Publishing is something I should think more about, I guess.
"For me it is a mutually positive relationship. Unfortunately these are some of the first people to over simplify my occasional unhappiness with the situation. Like people in relationships often are, I from time to time am unsatisfied with the outcome of an affair in an emotional way."
This, I think, is one of the most important examples. In every choice there is always unhappiness, but we are more willing to point fingers when someone else is sad if they do not share our personal views, merely because we cannot understand theirs. This can also be said for people I know who participate in non-monogamy, or any other deviant life style. An honest thing to say would be to say "I don't understand it" and leave it at that, unless you have tried to understand it. Really tried. This would involve not pointing fingers, or hating/judging a person whose act you find to be disagreeable. I guess, you should be pointing fingers at the act, not the person, and the only way to do this is, perhaps, to merely live in a way you see fit, then also choosing this act for everyone. At least there is conviction.
"In choosing myself, I choose man."